Reclaim The Girl or Gurl You Truly Are!
Miss. Fiona why are people sometimes so unaccepting of sissies? What’s wrong with wanting to be girlie? -Nancy
That is a great question with no good answer unfortunately. You should be able to get your girl on without judgment or condemnation. It’s fun to be fancy, fabulous, feminine yet fierce, sporty, smart, savvy, strong, capable, with a razor sharp wit, creative, independent, and spirited –all of which captures the essence of girl/gurldom.
You aren’t alone in notices this prejudice though. Even as a biological girl I sometimes feel I have to defend my right to be seen as a girlie-girl because somewhere down the line the term “girlie” became synonymous with stereotypes of women as weak, dumb, lazy, vapid, bitchy, vain, superficial etc. How crazy is that? Why have modernized connotations associated negative attributes with being ultra-feminine? Perhaps this is the unspoken undercurrent that runs through the societal stigma of boys not being able to show their spectacular sissy sides without ridicule in a lot of what is still considered mainstream culture; Because deep down there is still an overwhelming sense of panic that being “ladylike” or en femme isn’t as desirable or worthy of respect as being “manly”? Sissification training and cross-dressing are both outlets of expression that you have every right to dabble in.
Where does this collective feeling come from that is so concerned that if we are allowed to show our love of glitter, glam, twee, fashion and all things apologetically adorable that we will somehow be rendered incapable of also being fully-formed, mature, thoughtful, courageous, generous, stoic, caring pillars of our respective communities and families? Another great question with no good answer.
Sometimes I think those that are full of envy and fear like to oversimpfy and objectify as a way to try and gain control over their own insecurities by projecting them onto others. It sounds like you have been experiencing the brunt of their narrow-mindedness.
Their misconception is not a reflection on you. They don’t define you -only you can do that for yourself. They haven’t earned and are completely unworthy of stealing your power.
We are all entitled to be as sexual, sensual, passionate, vulnerable, sensitive, open, nurturing and as bad-ass as we like. No explanations or compensations needed. You can be a whimsically floral pink-is-power, sparkly nymph that can take the world by storm and still knock the socks of your detractors with your kick-ass inner strength and enthusiasm.
So keep on shining as you are! 😉
If people underestimate you -so be it. Use that card to your own advantage, as a secret ace up your sleeve because guess what? You have the upper hand when people make assumptions because they are blindly looking up their own butts instead of seeing the truth.
Bring their preconceived notions crashing down as you rock the world in your own uniqe way and don’t be afraid to leave a trail of shimmer in your wake! 😀
Zooey Deschanel in New York Magazine and said:
“I think you can still be girlie and maintain your power. The fact that (you) associate being girlie with being non-threatening, that is… I mean, I can’t think of a more blatant example of playing into exactly the thing that we’re trying to fight against. I can’t be girlie? Why do I need to be defined aesthetically by someone else’s perceptions of what makes me seem like someone who should be taken seriously? I’m going to wear whatever I want to wear, because I’m expressing myself and I deserve that right. And I like the way that looks. You’re not demeaning yourself by acting girlie. I think the fact that people are associating being girlie with weakness, that needs to be examined. Not me dressing girlie. I don’t think that undermines my power at all.”
Ms. Fiona, I couldn’t agree with you more on men “reclaiming the girl they really are”. It’s important to tell self the truth and acknowledge that, unlike what other people think. Now, let me just say: men doing this is not wrong: they can choose to put out ANY energy they want as long as your happy in the end.
That is so true! Personal happiness is so much more important than what anyone else thinks. 😀
I just wish I could show it in public even by going shopping for sexy clothes for myself and knowing everyone knows who I am shopping for .
Yes, I completely agree. It would make life so much easier. 😀
Being girlie is do much better then being guy! You have better clothes/dresses and you get to wear bras/panties/boyshorts/slips/heels/
Boots and makeup/lipsticks/perfumes/lotions! Honestly I wish I was a girl instead of a guy and wish I had sisters as I’m sure they would’ve caught me wearing their bras/panties/clothes/makeup/
Lipstick/dresses and made me wear them just as Ms Cindy and Ms Gia did to me.
Yes girls/gurls just wanna have fun and we do find lots of ways 😉
There’s a saying that people fear things they don’t understand. I definitely believe that, Miss Fiona. There are a great many people in the world that have their own issues that they have yet to work out within themselves, and they often project negativity onto others because of it. Being girlie is just one way to celebrate yourself, and it doesn’t affect anyone else. If anything, the biggest naysayers and trash talkers are jealous of the freedom that other people feel free to express. Go girlie….who cares what anyone else says!
Well said gorgeous! 😉
Oh dear, now I get all serious (just for a moment). We have been living in a male dominated society for centuries, men fight to move up the ladder. So, if a man adopts a feminine way, he is perceived as not moving up and even consciously moving down the ladder. Unconsciously people fear this movement in the” wrong direction”, and then hate what they fear. Ferget about it!
To Emily : In my attempts at buying clothes and make up, I have found that 1) men don’t care, 2)women even like it, and 3) the two times that women have given me a sourpuss face, out of hundreds of other women, well I just actually feel sorry for them – for me it doesn’t hurt a bit. One time I just barged right in to a vintage clothing shop, for the petticoats, and said out loud right away : “You are cross dresser friendly, right?” , well, what else could she say except “yes”. Now she knows me and it’s always fun to go there. So for me, it has been even fun to smash through the fearful scenarios that I build up in my own mind. ….O.k., I’ve still got a long way to go, but at least I am not always crippling myself so much now. So give it a try, even just a small very safe step.
Hey there Jennifer thank you for your great input! I don’t think I was ever one to conform to the norm either and it makes life so luscious and bright.
I want togetcaught out in public wearing panties and maybe a bra. Do you have any ideas how todo this ?
Why don’t you put on a fashion cam show for us Mistresses? 😉
Wearing women’s clothes is so much better. They same with wearing bra/panty set, yoga pants,leggings,dresses, girlish tops,sweaters, makeup,lipstick,perfume. Wearing the tighty whities are way uncomfortable for me. Your right guys don’t care I just want to find women into this for real.
Yes, women have lots of options to choose from & so should you! Why limit yourself? 🙂
Peter have you gotten caught in public ?
How many pairs do you own Emily?
No I haven’t got caught in public but I did free sephora makeover and it was thrill! Girl asked my why I wanted to do this and I told her I was curious. She smiled and started putting makeup on me as well as lipstick. I was iffy at first but after much thought I decided to go through with it. Just sitting in chair and having her do this to me was awesome! I want to find/meet women who like feminizing me. I really am a cream puff sissy. I want to get caught then I would fess up and come clean.
Sephora is like a candy store for grown-ups 🙂
Sephora is great! I’m going to buy lipsticks/blush perfume from there as well as get another free makeover again.
The MAC company is great as well 🙂