As we all know there are times when sex of any kind not just in the shadows of BDSM can be succulently gritty, infused with strong urges and primal need. Hair gets pulled, backs clawed, moans and whimpers that barely sound like our own voices reverberate forth with a guttural growl in mutual jubilant elicitation. Yes, sometimes sex is sweaty, wet, hot, dirty, rough and messy. Please and thank-you are not required or even desired in an instance wherein you just want to take and be taken.
What happens between the sheets (or for that matter in the car, on the balcony, under the stars, on the counter etc.) is wholly separate from the passive politeness and formality that is a cornerstone of societal civility.
So the question remains what if any place does nice etiquette have when doing the nasty?
–Mutual Respect is the main ingredient in the dom/sub dynamic. Even humiliation whores and small dicked cuckies have hard limits and boundaries that a Mistress should honor and observe by keeping within the bounds of them.
–Be generous with your time don’t rush -don’t cheat yourself or your partner(s) out of one morsel of pleasure. Share and share alike enjoy the moment and savor the sin-sation
–Be attentive anything worth doing is worth doing right so mute and put on pause all the mundane banalities of the everyday -they aren’t going anywhere so don’t worry.-
–Be honest. So that trust in the erotic arena can flourish communicate and express your truth. Don’t be afraid to be who you are As Dr. Suess so aptly put it:
|“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”|
By Janet Willow -Love this Doll! xoxo
~**Give It Your All & Put Everything Into The Experience**~
Think of it as a Pot-luck (perhaps a Pot-Fuck if you will?) If you attend you must bring something with you to the table. You don’t just show up and think gracing others with your presence is what it’s all about that’s just the launching point. Sex is interactive, the ultimate contact sport. It’s a sexy scrimmage the requires you to bring your A-game to the when you engage . That’s right even for you voyeurs sex isn’t just a spectator sport. You still bring an energy into the mix which can effect the dynamic in a positive or negative way. intimacy is first and foremost an energy exchange on the deepest level so bring your full self.
Ms Fiona, you never cease to amaze me. You manage to come up with topics one rarely reads about in the context of phone sex. This one about manners and being polite is a perfect example. I was raised by a southern woman. Manners matter. It is a firm belief of mine that there is a place for manners and politeness in everything. Love the magical, mystical photo of you at the top of this posting too. Divine!
Aww thanks beautiful! I love that “Manner matter” –too perfect! I love the whole southern belle mentality of congeniality it’s such a virtue to be kind -even when we are kinky 😉
This was a fabulous post.
It is a truly delicate balancing act that needs to be carefully observed, as both parties enjoy (both in a giving and taking sense) their erotic adventures together.
Thank you so much. I thoroughly agree JJ 😉
Ms.Fiona, Your blog is sexually whimsical. I agree it is essential to practice proper erotic etiquette in your bedroom. Erotic etiquette is always a good idea to ensure a most pleasant sexual experience for you and your partner and makes a repeat visit all the more likely especially when it’s spontaneous sex.
Thanks sexy! I’m so glad you enjoyed this little playful post 🙂
I agree with you totally, the only problem with it that I have is that sometimes manners have made me into a “little lord fauntleroy”. I know that I have missed out on dates and sex because I was too mannerly and my competition was “just rude” and stepped right in. In which cases I always used my manners and “let the lady decide”. Well she always went for the macho sure thing and I was left with nothing. However, I must also say that once the dance really gets started, respect and thinking of the other seems to magnify the eroticism by at least ten fold.
One other quick side note for you : by reading your blogs I have stumbled across Lolita fashion. I am way down that rabbit hole now, so Thank you! (There is even a RuffleCon, probably near you, Stamford Ct, in Oct.)
You are so right!
Oh and I’m so glad you have discovered the Lolita uber-femme of rococo ruffle cosplay! I will have to check out the RuffleCon for prospect sissy subbie pet outfits now as well 😉