En Femme Flirting With The Five Senses Part 1
Inspired by my good friends Katie and my travel companion. 🙂
Recently it was requested that I do a post on flirting tips. At first I was a bit hesitant since it can be challenging to articulate the delicate dance of flirtation in its many manifestations. So much of it depends on the person you are flirting with and your own natural way of interacting comfortably, not to mention going out en femme. However, en femme flirting a very relevant and interesting topic that deserves attention so I have complied a few basic guidelines that I hope help create a path leading you away from feeling skittish to the joy of coquettish fun. Use all your senses to your advantage!
Communication is the universally recognizable component that is essential in all successful flirtations. The spoken word is one form but there are deeper connections that transcends mere verbal language. It’s vital to read the signs in order to respond accordingly which is the most important tool in your attraction arsenal.
Failure to Communicate
I remember quite distinctly a failure to communicate that still haunts me to this day. Lol I crashed a party in my neighborhood after being attracted to the sound of an outdoor stage and music playing that lured me into a wooded enclave. Everyone there was friendly & welcoming (most likely relieved I didn’t come to complain about all the ruckus). It was a blast to listen to the music, take in the sights and watch all the hotties. Only issue was it was completely outdoors and sweltering like Hades. I wasn’t actually planning on going to a party since it was all on a random whim so I felt less than my usual self.
Senseless
After a few hours or so I felt overheated and went to walk back to my apartment when a sexy guy followed me. He was friendly and very cute and just so happened to casually mention he was going to DC with some friends –some of which I knew from my building. I was honestly a bit shy as I felt sweaty and wanted nothing more than to wash away my morning run so when he asked what my plans were I said…I still can’t believe this… that “I had to wash my hair” or something to that effect. However I was disappointed he didn’t ask me to come.
Take a Hint
What I had failed to realize until one of our mutual friends told me a few days later was surprising. He was quite obviously hinting for me to go with them. Yet, the whole “having to wash my hair” line must have come across as declining his offer. You know, the old “let him down easy routine”. I still can’t believe how dense I was in that moment but I’ll blame the aridity & extreme heat. Hydration, and keeping cool is essential.
Extreme Cocktease Princess
The point of this little story is to remind you to always have your antennae honed into attracting opportunities. Had I known then what I know now, I still might have gone home to relax after a long hike. However, I surely would have asked for his number first. This wasn’t (for once), an example of me playing hard-to-get or being an extreme cocktease princess. Yes, that’s my typical modus operandi. Had I realized I could play that card to my advantage I surely would have.
Using the five senses can help you identify potential objects of allure already hooked in as well as how to respond accordingly. I will go into deeper detail in Part 2 on the art of the tease.
Ms.Fiona, Communication is also effective when spontaneous. Interesting enough we communicate more information by using non-verbal signals, gestures facial expressions, body language and even our appearance, which men love. Its so much fun flirting and being a tease.
It is fun isn’t it? Dishing out the flirtations is more my specialty than picking up one the clues and hints in response lol 😀
Thanks so much for posting this! I really enjoyed it! It is remarkable that you missed his flirt. Did you ever see him again!? Looking forward to the next installment!
Oh course Darling -you inspired it and thank you for the wonderful idea. Part 2 is coming soon! 😉
Ms. Fiona, this is such an appropriate and needed topic, and I am so happy to hear you point out that communication extends well beyond just what we may say with words in a given moment. Non-verbal communication can be so much more telling and revealing than we think it to be. …And the anecdote you shared is a superb illustration. Thank you so much for sharing! I am very much looking forward to the remainder of your series.
Thank you so much! Sometimes flirting seems to be many different languages in one lol or one with very contrasting variations in local vernacular and colloquial quirks lol
I love this blog! The art of flirting is a very good talent to develop and Ms. Fiona, it looks like your lucky callers have an expert in this subject! You are so right about paying attention to body language and the subtle hints.
Thank you so much! I so enjoy reading your sensual accounts of adventure. You are a wonderful Seductress. 😉
Hello Fiona, I am not very good at reading signals.
My first semester at College New York (upstate, not city), it was Spring semester and I had transferred it. My best was at that college and his sister was too, a freshmen. His sister’s roomate was incredibly hot and I really liked her but we were so different.
A small spot of dirt on her shirt and she would have to go change. Everything had to be spic and span clean with her, pristine, while I liked to get dirty looking for frogs and beetles and whatever I could find, not caring if I ended up with dirt under my fingernails or mud stains on my knees. We were so different, but she was so hot, and I was so shy. I avoided her because there was no effing way she would want anything to do with me.
May came, semester over, but there was something called Mayterm – you could take one intensive class that lasted 3 weeks. Not very many students took it. I did, my best friends sister did, and her roomate did.
First day, my best friends sister came to me and said `Alice (er, okay, I wasn’t Alice then), I know you are not that fond of X but she really likes you, could you be nice to her during Mayterm, for me? Sit at our table, etc., just don’t make her feel so rejected.’
Talked about missed signals!
Suffice it to say, Mayterm ended up being a fantastic 3 weeks for me 😀
She even let me take her salamander hunting (Red Efts) and getting dirty didn’t bother her 😀
But I suck at reading signals, I really do. And I suspect I suck at sending them too.
I guess I was just made to suck 😉
That is a wonderful story! How sweet -a date wherer you both looked for salamanders and she even went out of her pristine, clean comfort zone for it! That sounds like a blast it’s great that you both had those 3 weeks to make up for lost time. 😀
Dear Fiona;
I absolutely loved this discussion about flirting and the subtly to it, and the verbal and non-verbal aspects. I must admit also to missing my share of clues and hints, and only much later after the fact realizing that I had missed a chance with a hot woman.
I also want to wish you a VERY Happy Thanksgiving. Enjoy the day with family and friends.
Best wishes,
JJ
You too hun! All the best to you this holiday and I’m glad liked the post. It’s amazing how easy it is to miss those clues and hints but it seems everyone has managed to at one time or another. 😀
I am very glad you covered the topic of flirting, Ms Fiona. It is something we do regularly, but most never get any guidance. You are so right about people missing flirting cues. I have missed some myself. I can get very focused on what I’m doing and not looking for such things as a little bit of flirting. Your advice will help some guys make connections that might otherwise be completely missed.
Thank you Miss Violet! It’s good to know other Mistresses have had missed opportunities as well since it goes to show how easy it is to have those subtle messages slip by without realizing it till later. I guess it makes me prefer the direct approach but it seems that is so rare in the realm of flirting and dating. lol 🙂
Mistress Fiona, i love this topic and thank You for writing this. i work out at the gym a few times a week and would love some hints and ideas on flirting with hot ladies at the gym. Any ideas on how to send signals to sexy young ladies on the treadmill next to me or walking by me without me coming across as a pervert. 🙂 i usually flex my guns when i see a woman looking in my direction and i also flex my chest muscle and so far no luck. What am i doing wrong? 🙂
By the way, You have such a gorgeous and pretty face! LOVE the pic on this blog. 🙂
Just smile next time 😉 and thanks BTW 🙂
Omg, so I was at a music show (and dancing) and I ran into this old friend of mine and his wife, I hadn’t seen them for many yrs. So while dancing next to, I said jokingly “well, if we’re gonna have gay sex, I’m not gonna make the first move” and immediately he said “sounds like you just did”. We both got quiet and a little embarrassed. I remember now he always did have kind of a thing for me. So I guess that was kind of accidental flirting. Nothing happened, but wow I realize now that I probably could have more men than I realize. ( Don’t let Miss Violet know).
So now I’ll flirt with you : Hey,.. you’re newish here, love your voice. Plus you’re beautiful and smart and I’m really liking you’re blog writing. Lucky enough for me – I have your number too
Well, what a naughty li’l nymph you are! Thank you for all of your kind words as well darling! You have impeccable taste and are devilishly clever. 😉