Cuckies: It’s Evolutionary My Dear Wanker
(Perhaps…)
The Science Behind The Cuckold Kink
It has been hypothesized that there is an evolutionary reasoning linked to why the kinky cuckoldry fetish is more rampant than the status quo would like to admit. The status quo prefers to default to the stability of monogamous relationships overall. However, there are many species that benefit from sperm competition. To ensure the survival of humanity, it would therefore reason that we are hardwired (heehee) on a primal level to copulate & reproduce fervently. What do you think, Cuckies?
Birds Do it
The namesake derivative of cuckold is cuckoo. The cuckoos that engage in what seems like a parody of this very fetish. Fish, spiders and many more creatures also expand their numbers in a similar fashion. They all do this without the sense of taboo humans assign to sexual relations. Multiple men’s sperm can attempt to thwart each other’s fertilization of a female’s eggs before, during and even after the actual act of copulation if two or more males are taking turns occupying the reproductive tract of a female. Likewise, in humans, the men’s physiology enable their capacity to produce more sperm if they think their partner is involved sexually with another.
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Thus, the more insemination compared to the perceived threat of the rival sperm, the more of a chance it will be flushed out of the female’s reproductive tract by being displaced by fresh ejaculate. Makes sense that this would be a form of a retention tactic to keep a mate interested. Phallic semen-displacing behaviors are theorized to also play a role in prevention of rival sperm from being able to inseminate. The very shape of the penis can help draw out any possible competing sperm. Logically then if you couple that with the urgent desire to engage in more sex acts with the female partner suspected of straying, one cannot deny the distinct possibility of the scientific validity of this concept.
So tell me dear readers why do you think cuckolds get turned on? Is it the humiliation of cuckoldry, evolutionary/human nature, or a combination of both? If you are a cuckold why do you think you are?
Very insightful post, Ms. Fiona! The cuckold fetish is uniquely interesting to me because it draws on so many evolutionary and sociocultural factors. It’s interesting to examine the underlying narratives of the fetishes we enjoy. To me, cuckoldry combines the humiliation of social hierarchies with the visceral natural of human sexuality to create an intensely exciting experience.
Wonderful point! Very well stated Lovely Lady 🙂
Ms.Fiona, I find in many ways a husband makes the best cuckold and they make the process so much fun. I really enjoy the entire context of cuckolding, to know that men are willing participants and they will no longer have sexual relations with the wife, is powerful.
Hey Pretty Lady! That is so true -a hubby subbie-cuckie sounds divine. 🙂
Does this involve feminizing guys also?
Depends on the guy I suppose 😉
Oh Alice likes that photo a lot!
Okay as far as why cuckold appeals – well let me first say that there is a difference between hard science and soft science. Soft science has a lot of speculative reasoning to it that may be inferred from data but can not be directly tested. Alice likes to be hard 😀
Okay seriously, I think the arousal some men get at the idea of their wife having sex with other men may actually be a defensive mechanism against the guilt they feel at being sexually aroused by other women.
If she is having sex with other men, then it isn’t so bad to be sexually aroused by other women.
Sometimes I wonder if that is part of why I developed such a love for femdom. Being raised to believe any kind of sexual desire was degrading and objectifying to the woman and therefore wrong, if it is the woman who is sexually aggressive and in charge – then it is her choice and I’m not objectifying her as a sexual object.
I think there is more to it than that, I got turned on by women in control before I had the cognitive ability to rationalize it that way, but I wonder.
For cuckolding though, for me I get jealous easily and I think part of the fantasy is the feeling of jealousy that I am powerless to do anything about, but for those who really get turned on by it, I wonder if it is because it gives them license to fantasize about other women without guilt.
Excellent insight!
I love the realm of the metaphysical as well as the more “out there ideas”. And these aforementioned musings are definitely in what I like to call the “land of theoretical,” where all things are possible -even if they are not probable. (Although I dare say soft science is a step-up from “pseudo-science” and has potential to be considered more concrete in time and progress. One could say soft science is the larvae stage of ideas that may develop into hard science or may not -it contains limitless potential.
Hopkins, & Scientific American, have some very intriguing articles & research that has proven valid points, that I refer to in this blog post, however the main basis is very much an open-ended, ponderous inquiry and by no means meant to be taken as concrete. I strive for the malleable questions that are infinitely inspiring more than anything.
All we gleam from such pursuits of knowledge is a better understanding of our world and our place within it, so while I am somewhat on the fence as to the if, why, and how of cuckoldry, the one thing I know for sure is –it’s incredibly seducing and much more rampant than people realize. The more I play and engage in cuckoldry, the more I am addicted. 😉
I think the defense mechanism idea you mentioned is very much a possible facet to this fetish as well. I never thought about the guilt aspect of it before. Since pain and pleasure seem to be so closely related I always figured emotional pain, anxiety, and humiliation, anger, frustration get us worked up in that flight-or-flight mode like in subspace and then all our happy little hormones ease us into erotic urges.
Alice your intellect and thoughtful responses always amaze me! And yes I like Alice “hard” as well.
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Don’t read *too* much into the hard/soft science – just trying to make a hard joke.
Soft science actually can be fairly well tested, you make predictions – if A is true, then we should find B, C, D and then you look for them – allowing some degree of confirmation of A even if it can’t directly be tested and even if it doesn’t completely exclude other theories.
Some aspects of it can, some are still a work in progress lol or I guess our understanding of it is still in progress.
I can think of some experiments of our own we can perform if you are so inclined. 😉 heehee
Damn, now I have that song “Weird Science” stuck in my head.
Another aspect – if my woman is sexually desired by other men yet she picks me over them long term and just uses them for sexual gratification, then I know in her mind they are just for pleasure but I am for love.
I’d totally pick you Alice 😉
I absolutely believe that it is a combination. Also, I think it’s this odd, delicious and intoxicating mix of humiliation and titillation, all rolled into one. It can definitely get its hooks in a person! I would like to know if there are any women who are turned on by their men being with other women. If there are, I would think that it’s incredibly rare, if not impossible. Now what does that say about men and women?
Very good question! Anyone care to share? I have a feeling Mistress Courtney is absolutely right. A true rarity if it in fact exists.
Yes, I too would like to know if there are any women who get turned on by their men being with other women. And their phone numbers too, if you can get that data…
lol Alice 😉
Ms Fiona, you are one smart cookie! Have you considered doing a thesis project on cuckolding? I could just imagine you standing front and center in a large classroom with charts and diagrams explaining all of this in superb detail. No doubt, the audience would learn a thing or three about cuckolding!
LOL you’re too kind! Cuckolding is so fascinating isn’t it?
I am catching up with this post late, but it’s a great one. I am not sure I am a full fledged “cuckold” – maybe a 50 percent sort, though in recent years I feel more and more like I “get it” and can imagine and want it. I have however been around sexy women (girls when younger) who talk about the type of guy they are attracted to and want – masculine, alpha, endowed, confident. You simply don’t (that I recall) hear pretty eligible ladies talking about how they’d love a less masculine (more feminine), beta (a term I only recently learned), less endowed, more timid kind of guy. I think if you ARE that guy and yet heterosexual – if feels thrilling to just be “involved” on any level. Is it humiliating/embarrassing to be in the presence of females espousing the kind of male you are not – absolutely – and, yet, it is thrilling, I think because you feel like you are at least a part of things? On a separate but related note – I have long had a sort of odd fetish – I like (really, really, like) to do chores and errands for women. I don’t think many women or men either – understand this – how much I like it. I think it may be the same kind of thing – as a smaller, more “beta” guy it makes you feel happy and excited to be a part of things and a part of making her happy even if it is not exactly how you would prefer…..if you had a choice.
I think you are very right -great point. You sound like a wonderful service submissive.
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What a brilliant post! As Ms Alexis said, perhaps a thesis is in order? I also visualized our beloved kitty cats. A female will produce a litter of kittens with sperm from different males, all lined up on the fence waiting their turn. You know who will be first on that fence of course. The alpha male first, the strong bull. The sissy last, the one who will produce the runt!
Oh I don’t know about that, I’m a runt but all young ones are big and tall and strong and active, in fact their zeal for athleticism reminds me a lot of the wife’s personal trainer. So see? us sissies can produce winners.
Oh yes -the runts must be strong as well in order to fight for survival.
Okay I have to confess only two of the k*ds have the zeal of her personal trainer. The third, he has an unusual interest in ranching. What’s funny, he has the same curly hair that the milk man has. I wonder if there is a connection between curly hair and dairy farming.
LMAO 😀
Thank you so much! The kitty cats are an astute (and adorable) analogy 😉
There’s one other theory about cuckolding I’ve developed after talking to several men turned on by this sexy fetish: men sexualize the trauma of losing their love interest. How many cuckolds (and cuck wannabes) have said to me, “My wife is cheating on me, why is my cock so hard?” I wonder if it’s a defense mechanism that kicks in to placate his nervous fears he’s going to lose his partner–which then becomes imprinted on his brain (and cock). What do you think, Ms. Fiona?
The idea that fear gets blended with excitement makes total sense to me. I don’t see this written about or explained much other than here. Unless I just don’t know where to look
It’s very similar to thrill-seekers and the way the adrenaline makes them feel almost giddy with excitement psychologytoday.com has a lot about this phenomenon.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/lets-connect/201002/can-fear-and-grief-be-pleasurable
I agree! Just like when one’s body can go into shock and numb out in times of extreme distress, kicking starting the internal adrenal arsenal, so too does our mind and subconscious seem to create a cushion of protective armor in many subtle but powerful ways.
I heard some Talk – on some internet site – a psychologist (or so said) who said something that I had not heard before (maybe this is old news to others?). She indicated that she worked with many adults, I guess women in particular, and her sense was that frequently in younger years women would (consciously or not) pick and date and spend time with more alpha males but in fact for many when they “settled down’ they might “pick” (again either consciously or not) a more beta guy- more compliant, quieter, submissive. She suggested that this was biologically driven, in part, as “that guys” would be better at cutting the lawn, grocery shopping, doing chores around the house, listening to his wife/girlfriend – more like a woman listens to a woman. At the same time she suggested that that same female is or could be still attracted to and driven toward the “other guy” for his more alpha characteristics – and then what happens next can be as varied as snowflakes and dependent on the individuals. I was sort of stunned by how clear and concrete this woman sounded.
I’m not sure how much of it is biologically driven and how much of it is learned behavior based upon society norms. It can be hard to separate the two.
There was one case in high school where I had met a young woman over summer and we actually hit it off, but then when school started, the clique she hung out with told her I was an uncool choice and, well, that was that.
My mother, she grew up poor in SF as an immigrant from Germany. Before she met my dad, she had been dating a young man in officer training and he dumped her after he brought her to a function because they told him she was not suitable material to be an officers wife.
I think what sometimes happens is the young (both male and female) are often influenced by society around them, and become more independent as they age allowing them to choose with less society bias.
I just gave anecdotes, would be interesting to see actual study.
Ah, yes. Perhaps it is a combination culminating from our natural instinct to fit in with the hive mentality & an attempt to blend with the herd’s hierarchy which is further perpetuated by societal conditioning that celebrates trophy relationships -hollow though they may be.
Thinking for oneself does seem to be a stronger attribute to cultivate though, as opposed to blind allegiance to the peer pressure to “fit in”.
You know that is a theory that I have heard recently as well. Honestly, anything that justifies my insatiable need for a male harem, is worth serious consideration. ;)
I’m fascinated with cuckolding and its many variations and effects. Cuckolding for me is strictly a fantasy, but a very hot one for sure. For me it’s all about the excitement of her excitement, envisioning watching close up porn if you will, but with someone I know and have had relations with; it makes me want her soooo much more. Which makes her incredibly excited as well. It’s a lot of fun in role play calls, and even though I don’t have an interest in practicing it with my partner, we occasionally use cuckold talk during sex to increase our excitement. No matter whether on a call or in the bedroom, the talk really works me up good and makes me that much more excited to cum and cum hard (which, of course, makes the delay or denial part of cuckold fantasies even more exciting!). So it makes sense with all those emotions that a physiological and biological byproduct would be increased interest in sex and bigger loads, with their evolutionary consequences. I have read about this and women who cuckold talk about having sex with their partners afterwards and how they cum really fast and with huge loads. And I have read about the penis shape as a part of that evolution. And now this post spawned a very kinky idea – instead of licking out the cum, frustrate the cuckold by allowing him to place his penis inside her pussy, but not to fuck or cum, but merely as a tool to scoop out the cum (and then use it as masturbating lube which I have fantasized it about). Can you imagine the teasing and frustration of being allowed inside, but not for any real pleasure, just as a functional tool and which would only increase the frustration?! Gets me going now!
So very true and well-stated. Is it getting hot in here or is it just me? 😉
So, when a more masculine lover takes a cuckold’s wife and blows a large load, it really stimulates the cuckold, because he perceives the threat of losing his wife? Huh… and all this time, I thought it was because most cuckolds are really just dying to suck those larger cocks and eat those huge creampies, once the real man is done with his wife… you learn something new every day I guess, lol 😉
Thanks Ms. Fiona and great post and for enlightening us!
Christine, I’m not actually personally fond of another man’s cream pie. For those that are more power to them, but for me it is a little too humiliating.
Now that scenario you and I did where I was under – that was different then sucking it out.
And swallowing his load if blowing, that is different to.
But cream pie is not my thing even though it is fun to joke about.
Maybe someday it will be, it use to be that sucking on a strapon was okay but not having an actual cock in my mouth – you, btw, were the first Mistress I role played that with and it was fantastic. So I can’t say cream pie fantasies are a never for me, never say never except when saying never say never.
Oh I bet Mistress Christine is very persuasive with her sexy voice and hot pics 😉
lol Maybe it’s a little of both overall for most cuckies 😉