5 Stages for SPH Cuckies Part 1
This post is dedicated to my hyper-kinetic pet, the self-dubbed “Jack-off Julia of the Cannon Clitty -Cock” (humiliation whores only)
Cuckoldry for the subby hubby is a process of acceptance that every cuckie must go through. In order to benefit from all the transformative power of creating a new normalcy and a better union between the hot wife and her newly anointed pet. The transition of husband to submissive slave is a tricky path to traverse to be sure. Let’s take a look at these five stages.
They are basically the same of those of the famed Kubler-Ross Model. While it originally was created by the author Elizabeth Kubler-Ross to describe the 5 distinct stages of dying and mourning, it can also be applied to the rebirthing that one undergoes in a cuckolding couple’s arrangement.
5 Stages for Cucks
Think of these 5 categories as a basic framework to reference but do keep in mind everyone copes and adapts slightly different and the cessation of each may vary. Overall though, reading up on all 5 will be infinitely helpful for those on the perilous path of cuckolding courtship. This journey may even lead to a newfound contentment never before experienced between partners if traversed cautiously and openly.
Chicks Dig BIG DICKS & The Mirth of Girth
Let’s face the cold, hard fact though: most women are size queens. The bigger, thicker and more talented the better. Plus endurance and stamina are also vital for an encore orgasm performance. It’s our penis prerogative though isn’t it?
Denial -Ain’t Just A River in Egypt
Stage one is the most difficult one to surpass. Perhaps you aren’t yet ready to admit your dinky winky isn’t capable of pleasing the lovely lady of your life/”hot wife”. Awareness is key here. You cannot properly care for your wife/girlfriend’s needs until you are aware of all the you lack. You do want her to be happy right? Cuz if she ain’t happy….well I’m sure you know the rest by now 😉
Remember though for the real cuckold there is hope: on the other side of the subby hubby’s jealousy, anger, and crazy emotions solace can in fact be found in acceptance.
Try This Exercise
Recite this mantra until it rings true to you:
My wife/gf (insert name here) deserves sexual worship & pleasure,
Even though my member is below a cock’s acceptable measure
Stayed tuned for my next companion post/part 2 that deals with Stage 2 Anger:
~Pegging as a Resentment Purgative~
Ms Fiona, I often wonder how these hot wimen wind up with less than well endowed guys. Can’t they find a well hung man with the other qualities they are looking for?
In some cases they aren’t aware of any issue until they already have fallen for their subbie hubby on account of other qualities since many have exceptional compensating characteristics that make for great life partners regardless. I will be posting an interview with a cuckie that delves deeper into what makes these relationships work well despite the unique challenges SP subbies face. 😉
Ms.Fiona That’s right, once the Mantra is recited enough times they to will start to believe it, well, maybe. I can see how the five stages applies to a cuckie whereby the husband ceases to exist in all sexual terms so she wife/gf needs a little help from an assertive bull to realize that she should actively demote the cuckold.
Yes it’s indoctrination necessitates a cuckie to be open-minded to be properly trained 🙂
Does this involve the both of you feminizing/turning me into a girl?
I am a little familiar with Kubler Ross and I believe what you describe is quite true even if we all are each a bit different. At first you spend a lot (a whole lot) of time wondering if women really care and (trying) to convince yourself otherwise. It does not work. Then you wonder about your own size. In truth you sort of know but it is a long road from knowing to accepting. I have never been a “full fledged” cuckold (to my knowledge) but have numerous time and from early on been near or around women openly expressing their preference for and admiration of endowed males. I also know that once the “issue” is known women (I think generally) will behave more aggressively toward “little guys” – expecting more compliance or effort or whatever. I have been near women who do that consciously – like it’s totally on the table but also some with whom it is more implicit.
So are you more into cucking as a fantasy?
I am not sure. It is not exactly a fantasy. I have had women explain, and emphasize their preference and even admiration for endowed guys and sort of flaunt it (for lack of better word) to me – or at least not hide it. I know I have also had some girlfriends be open with other guys. Partly to my embarrassment. It also makes a guy feel weak and helpless. But I think there is another part of it. You feel connected to her and sort of excited that she is excited and happy about the prospect of a big guy. You sort of have to accept it. I just have never been there or directly witnessed it. Lastly I’ll say it is uniquely disabling when a woman talks to a guy about how wonderful and endowed another guy or other guys are. It does sort of make you want to drop to your knees and it does I think make you submissive
So is it a turn-on for you on some level or more you are empathizing with her arousal?
Wow. Tough question. The word that comes to mind first is “disabling”. It’s like I feel frozen. A deer in headlights sort of thing. I cannot run nor can I act. Frozen. So I (guess) I am fascinated by her arousal wanting to be close to it. As close as possible. Though, feeling oddly like a girlfriend with her saying these things. Wishing desperately that it was me she was thinking of. Wishing I was her big hard man but knowing, or at least sensing, that she sees me more as a buttercup. Hers. I feel enveloped. Possessed in some sense. Very very much at her will. I’d get groceries. Run her errands. Even listen to her big men tales. Quiet. Embarrassed. But yes excited.
Perhaps it would feel safe in a way? Since it’s like the vicarious voyeur daydream scenario where no control has to be relinquished directly but you can entertain the notion.
I think the feeling is of intense vulnerability. I think you (in this case me) want and desire on some deep level to have her happy and be near her – at all costs. When she says she wants a big one – half of you gets it, empathizes, and wants that for her too – but the other half of you is living a nightmare – your dream girl wants (needs?) something you do not have. You feel torn down the middle (thus the “frozen” response) – humiliated on the one hand but also sort of wanting it for her.
What a paradox of painful pleasure!
yes it is….and, best I can figure – in order to have the excitement you also have to accept the humiliation. hearing about what she really wants. what guy would not get excited hearing that from a girl? It’s thrilling. The only bad part is that it is not you. It’s a pretty big bad part but the good part is still exciting.
I can understand that. Thanks for all the info and input -it’s great to hear the perspective of the flipside 😉
sorry – what the heck is “the flipside”? what does that mean?
the subbie/cuckie point of view as opposed to the Dom/Mistress perspective
Ohooo yellow yellow dirty fallow…….
Be a good boy-toy now 😉
Would You feminize and turn me into a girl too?
OMFG, I am so glad You are back! I thought You had forgotten about me; and, weren’t going to return.
I have been being good and not masturbating, which has led me to become very ‘engorged’ for You.
I hope You still love ‘older men’!
Your hips look like Heaven. I wish I could jerk-off for You!
Oh, the denial is so hard to overcome! It feels like a crushing weight when you first begin to realize that chicks really do dig cocks. Big, thick, juicy ones. And that’s ok. They’re not a bad person just because they want cock and I don’t have what it takes to satisfy that desire. They’re free to find a man that satisfies them. And it’s my problem to find satisfaction for my own needs, even if that’s incredibly difficult when I’m packing a dicklet. (That’s where LDW mistresses come in – helping us little dicks find our place and a little satisfaction – sometimes).
It used to be so easy to escape into denial about all of that. But chastity, long talks with women who had the courage to be honest about dick size (and dicklet size for some of us), it’s all really helped me work through the difficulty of SPH denial.
Mistresses who help men come to grips with where they stand really are doing them a major service. Not to mention all the women they’re saving from disappointment by keeping these men in their pussyfree place where they can’t disappoint any more future partners!
It’s a hard job but someone’s got to do it 😉
Lol thanks Ms. Fiona!
Do you ever think about how much more satisfying you’re making the dating experience for all of womenkind just by keeping all of us dinky dicks busy with online tease princesses instead of clogging up the dating scene with our tiny penises and reject personalities?
It legit makes a difference for good in the world – you should do a blog post about how much the better the world is with us all staying out of the game.
Heehee I love that!