Sissy Wardrobe Intervention From the Scourge of the Purge
Need some ideas to prevent purging of all your girl goodies?
-When shopping, spring for expensive items & keep receipts to remind you that by purging you are basically throwing away your hard earned $$$. This makes for a good excuse to pamper yourself too. Splurge don’t purge and keep your sissy wardrobe intact. 😉
-Remember your 3 “P’s”: Pause ponder, & problem solve.
*Pause -Take a moment and take a deep breath.
*Ponder -What triggered the need to get rid of your wardrobe both now and in the pass? Is there a pattern you can decipher? Also, remind yourself that these inclinations of buying and then trashing and rebuying can be cyclical and wasting your wardrobe won’t curb the craving or the need to express and accept your feminine side. In contrast, the sense of wanting to purge phase does taper off in time. Suppressing just leads to stressing.
*Problem Solve -What can you do when these negative emotions emerge? What would be a good stress-busting distraction to placate yourself until the desire passes?
-Contact your mistress or go to sissyschool.com for support. Yes, we are mistresses of phone fantasy exploration but also here for you to listen and help.
-Wait at least 3 days before actually getting rid of anything and then see how you feel. Chances are the feelings will have passed. If you still feel you want to purge after giving it a long hard contemplation and it is what you deeply desire to do, think about the donation of anything that isn’t actual undergarments or panties so that at least someone will get to enjoy those skirts, dresses etc.
It always makes me so sad when my sissies told me that their collection is now only a sad remnant of a once beautiful and plentiful collection of sexy garments! I do hope all you sweet sissies reading this take heed in her words, and fight that urge! You’ll always end up regretting it 🙂
Yes That is so very true Miss Hope! 😉
Hi Ms
Purging is so destructive. I think it is fed by guilt. The idea that cross dressing is some kind of taboo. I have had these urges over the years but they always pass. The urge to cross dress comes back stronger each time. Now the only thing I do is thin the herd some so I can get a few new things to wear. As you have seen I have a great deal of formal dresses. There is a charity down here in south florida that gets formal dresses and wedding gowns to girls who are to poor to afford d them. This is where my cast offs go.
xxxx
yvonne
That is wonderful Yvonne! And a little weeding out of the old to make room for the new makes sense as every wardrobe needs a little pruning and new additions from season to season. 🙂 XOXOXO
Your ‘Pause, Ponder, Problem Solve’ approach is an excellent way to deal with purging and do a little self-assessment. There is a reason and a root cause for everything, and the sooner that it’s identified, the sooner it can be dealt with. Excellent post, Miss Fiona. I think you’re going to help alot of our friends with this advice.
Thanks I find it’s a common problem but luckily has some easy solutions 😉
You know, Ms. Fiona this is a topic that we discuss quite a bit with our cross dressers and sissies alike. Life situations and guilt cause our pets to think there is something wrong with them or their fetishes and so they try to “throw it away” in a literal sense. But without fail, they almost always regret it.
These are great thoughts you’ve shared here and I really think they can help some of our gurls… great post!
I hope so. The splurge as opposed to purge idea wherein one invests in expensive goodies to make it harder to part with was from a clever caller that finds it helps. 🙂
This is a fantastic post, Ms. Fiona! Your three P’s are a fantastic way to help cross dressers and sissies break the frustrating cycle of purging and rebuying. For a lot of my sissies and cross dressers, their interest in femininity is accompanied by a deep-rooted sense of guilt and social pressure. Some men eroticize that pressure, while others respond by purging. Hopefully this post helps save a few pairs of pretty panties from ending up in the trash. 🙂
So true and the world would be so dull if we were all the same. I do like the idea of the external pressures working conversely to actually make the taboo aspects all the more sexy. Forbidden fruit tastes the sweetest for a reason I think. 😉
Purging is out of the question. I’ve spent to much money over the last 17 years to throw it all away. I admit it women’s clothes/dresses are better then guy clothes. Also wearing bras/panties/slip/heels/boots are hot and sexy. Lipstick/blush/foundation/perfume and lotion I also like as well. I so want to find women to feminize me for real but I know it won’t happen in real life. Ldw provided that in great way. Honestly the only way fir this to happen is if I come out and tell women that I want them to do this to me but im scared what reaction will be and the ramifications. What are your thoughts Ms Fiona?
Well first off, I am so pleased LDW has provided an outlet to help and I’m glad you aren’t experiencing the impulse to purge.
Now as to how far you wish to take it, there is no right or wrong answer. It’s really a matter of your personal comfort level and what works for your current lifestyle. There are pros and cons, risks and rewards to all choices and at the end of the day all we can do is evaluate to our best ability which path looks like it leads to more positive outcomes that outweigh any possible negatives.
I have noticed that many of my pets that initially feared there would be a sense of lose of their former selves if they were to dive into their en femme side (either in private or public). However, the resounding refrain seems to be that both aspects of your personality can coexist with plenty of breathing room.
Everyone has what can be considered “masculine” and “feminine” attributes that can be pondered and played with in different ways and you don’t have to choose just one. Think of it as adding options to your repertoire instead of subtracting them.
The fashion is just a tiny keyhole glimpse into your spirit within. 😉
I confessed to most mistresses that wearing women’s clothes is hot and it’s only way I get hard and off. Having women on ldw that want to do that to me is even better! if I don’t find women in real life that’s I’ll live with that. But if I start going out with them it’s not if but when they find out about my fetish. I’ll just tell them the truth! Most women do wear hot sexy dresses/yoga pants/leggings/boots/heels. If they didn’t want the attention then why would they wear it? At salon I go to most if not all are wearing knee high boots/ankle boots/yoga pants/leggings. Seeing that really makes me weak and submissive :(. I want to wear that the next time I get my mani/pedi and if need be I’ll tell then that wearing leggings/boots/panties/bra is turn on and I would love to find women into doing that to me. I just haven’t pulled trigger yet:(
Having dolls and dressing them up is fun for me both as a mistress and for fun/recreationally. Feminization is like playing with real life barbies. 🙂
I want you to make me your Barbie doll to dress up as a girl against my wishes like what Ms Cindy & Ms Gia have done to me:(
Well that can be arranged 😉
id love to have the 3 of you keep me dressed as a girl all the time. I admit this was something that was needed as MsGia told me. Shes right 🙁 I was to shy,scared and afraid to admit it. Its what I always wanted.If thr 3 of you could do this against my wishes and everytime I don’t want you 3 to dress me as well as put makeup on me all of you can put your arms around me and sit on my lap and give me lipstick kisses on my cheeks to weaken me into your cream puff sissy doll.
Isn’t it just amazing what can happen when you let mistresses have their fun? The possibilities are endless! 😉
I did a purge about 2 years ago, I honestly do not know what triggered it but in one fell swoop out went everything. As my name suggests I have a particular (some may say peculiar) love for bras. My 100+ collection was gone in a day.
I was “fine” for about 2 months then the urge to shop came back. Online shopping is my weakness but this time I did more “window shopping” than actual purchasing. Don’t get me wrong, I have bought, just that this time I have kept it in check and am actually happier with myself than I was when I owned many times more.
Not sure but I think my purging experience was a positive one.
Well if you feel positively about it even in retrospect and did it out of a genuine desire and not reluctantly out of a sense of external pressure or shame than that’s totally OK. It’s whatever feels natural and right for you.
“Purging” is more the term used when done continuously because of guilt or trying to contort ourselves out of obligation when there is no actual change of heart.
Pruning that which is old to make way for the new, or personal style preference changes, downsizing etc. are all wonderful so long as the true you feels expressed and content 🙂
Your right Ms Fiona. I’m addicted to wearing women’s clothes/bras/panties/leggings/yoga pants/girlish tops/dresses/lipsticks/perfumes/blush/lotions to keep my skin soft and smelling girlish. I don’t want to quit this:( the only thing that is worrisome thing is that eventually I’m going to have to come clean :0 I met 2 girls I play tennis with and I’ve gone out with them. They don’t know about my fetish of liking to wear women’s clothes/makeup/lipstick/slips/bras/
Panties/boyshorts. If they find out I’m toast:(:( I don’t want to lose them as friends. What should I do if it comes to this?
True friends won’t at all mind and will accept the opportunity of having a new dress-up sistah 😉
Dear Miss Fiona,
Thank You
I’m not sure where else to tell you about this, so ; about 5 or 6 weeks ago I was having a really hard time. There was something on the internet about this 14 yr. old mtf transperson. She had just become the national spokesperson for some kind of acne treatment company, Anyway in the ad she looked so happy and beautiful and somehow this hit me so hard in my heart,….I cried and cried and just felt SO bad and I hurt so much. Ever so briefly, like 1/10th of a second, the words – “commit suicide” flashed through my mind. Immediately my responsible self took over and I knew that I had to find a suicide hotline to call. Fiona to the rescue!! You have a page here that lists community support, I remembered that and found the nat’l hotline to call – I wept for about 1/2hr with them – they were so nice. Then I called my own psychologist and left a message, she returned it, I answered : and she said she heard regret in my voice. Then I talked to her in regular session and everything is so much better now.
So….. : Thank You
and maybe this is the right page to talk about it, I always thought it was the “self hate” that society put inside me, and of course guilt, but now to my surprise – I have some regret about not expressing my girl.
Okay, a little off topic, but not so far off.
and again a heartfelt THANK YOU
love, Jennifer
Oh I am so very sorry to hear you were having a hard time & am so glad you didn’t let the dark side takeover, while instead finding the strength to keep on going holding your head high.
Please feel free to talk about it as much as you like. This board is moderated by me so I try to make sure everyone keeps it respectful and safe for any sort of discussion. You know, your story may just help someone else who happens to read it so thank you so much and I am honored you felt comfortable to share it. Big Hug & Big Kiss xoxoxo, Fiona
Thank you for your kindness, it is so difficult to talk about. I am old enough to come from an era where I literally, reasonably, have to fear for my life. I lived in San Francisco in the 70’s and every week there would be a story in the papers about some kids who came across the bay from Oakland and beat transvestites to death with baseball bats – it was either a sport to them or a way to prove their manhood. It was called Gay bashing…because they assumed that a man in a dress was Gay. It still happens around the country now and again. My fear about it is part of why it is so hard for me to talk about. Our country simply has to stop hating.
I am beginning to see that that also means that I have to stop hating myself. I am trying, but it is oh so difficult.
I am so glad to know LDW, you all seem to be so intelligent, and beautiful, and well informed. I will save up so that I can talk to you, I love your blog from start to finish, especially “support resources”. love, Jennifer
I am so glad the resources helped! And I realize it can be hard not to internalize all the injustice but just know you are keeping your love alive and their hate is not a reflection on you nor can it take away the beauty of who you are. 🙂